Choosing who will stand beside you on your big day can be confusing and quite overwhelming, however, it doesn't have to be! Read on as we break down the most important things to consider when picking your bride tribe.
It's About Quality, Not Quantity...
Take your time and don't rush into making this decision. You don't have to choose a friend that you have known for years - it's about who you feel closest to at that time in your life. Think about your relationship and who will be around long after the wedding.
Consider the size of your wedding...
When it comes to determining how many people will make up your bridal party, it's so important to consider the size of your wedding. The average wedding party is made up of 5 on either side, so this is a great place to start when determining how many bridesmaids and groomsmen to have. For a smaller wedding with around 50 - 60 guests, ideally no more than 4. For a larger wedding of around 160, you could go up to 10-12 if you and your partner really wanted. Keep in mind, the budget also comes into play - the more you have, the more expensive it becomes.
Don't feel obligated to ask someone who asked you...
Be prepared for some hurt feelings. After the excitement of choosing your bridal party has calmed, you need to prepare yourself for some uncomfortable conversations. This may come from someone you aren't able to include as a bridesmaid - especially if you were their bridesmaid. Whatever the case may be, it is important to be prepared. In saying that, remember to not be so hard on yourself - you can't make everyone happy. Here are some things you can do:
- Have an explanation prepared.
- Express how much you value your friendship and that they are a very important part of your life.
- Avoid saying you like someone else more or you feel closer to another person, even if that’s the case. You can mention their location, a family obligation, or that you’re limiting the wedding party to adults only. Plan what to say so you won't have regrets later.
- Have other positions of honor for those who weren’t selected to be bridesmaids. Keep your request positive and express that you value their friendship. For example, you might tell them that you’d like for them to be in charge of the reception table after the wedding because they has such a warm and welcoming personality.
Be Honest With Your Expectations...
It's really important to be upfront with your bridal party and the role you expect them to play. Do you want your bridal party to be quite involved in the lead up to your big day? Or do you expect them to have little input and just show up on the wedding day? Map out how much time you will need from them to avoid experiencing any disappointment.
Reliability Is Important...
We cannot express how important this is! If there is one thing you take from us, let this be it! The best bridal party is made up of friends who are reliable and responsible. Take into consideration that you'll need to rely on them for some pretty big wedding planning tasks. Think bachelor and bachelorette parties, speeches, looking after your expensive rings, and of course emotional support!
Follow This Rule...There are no rules!
What's most important is that you include your favourite people! It's your day, so it's your way! Regardless of gender, women can stand with the groom and guys can stand with the bride. When it comes to dressing them, again, you choose! Just make sure they're comfortable with whatever you want them to wear.
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