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  • Hi, I was wondering what are some nice ways to remember my parents and step mom at my wedding, my mom passed away when I was 3 and my dad when I was 9 and my step mom passed away last year when I was 23, I don't want it to be sad and it can be very upsetting for me and my fiances family don't know that my parents have passed, Im not sure what to do??

  • Firstly I am so sorry to hear that has happened in your short lieftime.

    You should sit down and talk to your fiances family prior to the wedding. They will be a great source of support for you over you lifetime with your partner and on the actual wedding night. It is best to be open and honest with them about it. You should definitely do something on the night to remember them as this is, no doubt very important to you. Is a sibling or close family friend walking you down the aisle? Or attending the wedding? Maybe you could ask them to do a little speech mentioning them and remembering them. Otherwise your fiance should step up to do it for you. There is nothing wrong with shedding a little tear on your wedding day, so long as it doesn't ruin your day.

    Alternatively, if you have any special trinkets that you have from your Mum and or Dad- maybe you could put them somewhere special on the day. OR a little picture of them maybe.

    Is there a song that reminds you of them?

    Was your Mum's/Step Mum's wedding dress kept? Could you use some of the material for your dress?

    Hope that has given you some ideas. Good luck!